Thread:Heimr Arnadalr/@comment-25389622-20150519155125/@comment-25389622-20150523234500

We're always going to have differences, it's just I do not wish for them to come across in conversations. And should they have to, then both sides should be respectful and not be hostile or pervade a negative attitude in edits or conversation. Going back to the start, the use of the term "baby steps" was one such example that was not necessary, and the reason why I asked Heimr to not act in such a way. He disagrees, saying that I should just not mind myself in how he conducts himself and not complain, even when addressing me. There's also a difference between this type of language and simply being blunt, the latter I can handle much better and so have less of a problem with. If Heimr felt the need to note my diction to be wrong or requiring improvement, he could have said so, saying something like, "but that's something that can also be sorted out". I don't know how you two see it, but I saw what was said as unnecessary and patronising. I apologise for carrying this on for so long, but I did try to wind this down a couple of times but to no avail it seems. I feel as if we would be going round in circles if you told us to make up and be nice. It's all good saying that, but then as soon as the next interaction comes across we have it all over again. And Heimr just saying that I will definitely take something personally next time almost gives him a green light to say whatever he wants in whatever manner and then put the burden on me for taking it to heart too much. While I'll say that I sometimes feel this way I only type what I feel is pertinent to bring up. And I don't need to tell Dragonboy what has happened in the past. I'd say that I could have reacted far worse on quite a few occasions and we probably wouldn't be having these conversations. But let's move forward. That's all we can do.

The original purpose of this thread was to establish if Anna's nineteenth birthday needed to have a "Fixer Upper" template if it were only for Heimr's personal reference. He also says about poor flow or whatever but that has always been something that has never required a template and is sorted out when one of us has the chance. He's mistaken if he thinks someone else is going to come here and amend it to the quality that all of us can, which is normally the purpose that such a template would serve.

May I also suggest that in future greater effort is made for people to get involved in discussions and say what they think. That way we won't just have two parties disagreeing and getting frustrated. I understand that we are a small operation and we sometimes may be too busy to get involved but that can also be a good thing so that we can all see as many conversations as possible.